Coming to hate my mom

It sounds so harsh when I say it but, she suffers from depression and uses that. And while I try to be understanding if I don't let her have her way she becomes mean. And if that doesn't work then she plays the "I'm so sad" and "no one loves me" crap and boohoo's to friends and family that I am mean. I'm tired of it, she has been stomping all over my and my husbands wishes for our kids.

Tried to buy his first Christmas outfit, tried to do their hair HER way, tries(when she is around) to tell us when to put them to bed, how much to feed them and on and on. It's to the point I just don't want her around.

And I've asked her to stop, "we are his parents we know what he needs", "that isn't for you to decide", etc. But again it turns to these stupid remarks of "well ill just shut up" or stomping out of the room mumbling about how she raised X kids. Or even the silent treatment and the rest of the time spent is shit.

I use to think we had a good relationship but when I started a family of my own and started to I guess "push her away" it's just gotten so damn bad. Anyone else ever had this problem?