first miscarriage :,(

Kelly
I just need to vent.
I've had two pregnancies with two healthy babies born. 
Trying for 3rd baby and got a BFP after AF didn't show on Sunday, February 19th ... I've had cramps this whole time but no bleeding. I took a Clearblue digital on Tuesday just for curiosity and got "not pregnant"..... scheduled a blood test that day and got a positive with that. Still cramps on and off all day, everyday.
Now Friday, February 24th I have bleeding and strong cramps. Called and spoke with a nurse and she said to get another blood test to measure the number to see if it gets higher or lower. But she also said it sounds like a miscarriage. As the day goes on my cramps get stronger and the blood isn't getting any lighter. 
I've never had this happen before and always felt so bad for the women who have. I've had a couple friends have miscarriages. I just thought I was so lucky to not have it happen to me. Selfishy almost. And now here I am. 
I'm not that far along but to be excited and planning names once you find the gender, etc. and then to have that just be gone in an instant is hard. 
I'm sorry for anyone and everyone who's gone and is going through this. I'm not good with words and how to sympathize for something like this. 
I hope I can heal quickly to try again with my husband when we are ready again. But I also don't know if I want to possibly go through this again. It's hard & sad. Time will tell. 
Hugs to everyone. Thanks for reading.