His brother is an extremist when it comes to guns. Little on the paranoia side of things. Anyway he had his pistol on his hip at thanksgiving and he also allowed the 16 yr old carry a loaded pistol on his person as well. 

We have our kids running around and no this isn't at his brothers house but the grandparents home. The neighborhood couldn't be more "leave it to beaver type" so no need for the guns specially at the dinner table. 

Anyway hubby and I don't have an issue with guns just feel there is an appropriate time and place. But at family gatherings aren't really the right place nor do we feel safe with our family running about. 

He asked his brother to leave them put away, that wasn't well received cause well like I said kind of an extremist so we thought we would speak to his parents and grandparents to give them s chance to a mediate a compromise such as keeping the guns locked in the car or a gun safe if absolutely necessary to carry them?!?  

Well Iwe had them over to dinner and expressed our concerns. They say they agrrrd and had talk to his brother but was unwilling to relent. Then his grandparents just kept on about how trained they are and nothing had ever happened before. We don't care how trained a person is, it's called human error for a reason. The calculated risk didn't out way the necessity. Plus giving a child a gun kinda lowered our opinion of his brother having any common sense.

So well me being a mom, pregnant, not wanting to rip our family apart cause his family is all I have as mine is far far away, got upset when they were just so unconcerned about the whole thing and felt we or I was unreadable. I told my husband I would take the blame I would be the  sacrificed lamb at the end of this. 

AnywY it's been about 8 weeks since the talk, and his dad came by to help hang our TV. He decided to tell us the outcome. 

His brother was willing to compromise and keep the guns in his grandparents gun safe as he arrived. But the grandpa changed his approach and said it's just not right to allow his wife aka me to dictate where his brother carries his weapon and that there won't be any more family holidays or what not. They said they will take each family out on their birthday alone. Holidays just won't exist. And he said (his dad) that it was because of how upset I got and how I cussed and stormed out. 

Yes my temper got the better of me but it wasn't til I was pushed. I have 3 kids with my ex husband and when he found out about the guns he lost it. Threatening to pull my holidays with my kids. So ya after his pigheaded aged comprised grandma kept repeating " they have had training" over and over I got up and stormed out of my house and said f**k as I passed her. 

I had also been crying but apparently having feelings and emotions is a damn crime. Even though my husband too great pains to make sure they knew this was our feelings not just mine. Off came my head. As I expected as it's easier to roast the in law than the son/daughter. 

So the dad verbally attacked me, was facing only me pointing at me and even said it's because of her. Ya said her not you as if I wasn't there. 

My husband did stand up but his dad said it didn't matter that we are to blame for changing everything and he was doing us a kindness by letting us know why we don't get invited. 

Needless to say our night was in shambles. His dad then acted light all was great and grand. And hubby and I are left broken. Guess I'm an awful wife and horrible mom cause I want to keep my family safe and together. And I shouldn't give two 💩 about not getting my other kids on the holidays. It was foolish of me to think those in their 70s and 50s would rather pick family over guns.   

Now I don't know what to do. Oh and he said if we told his mom the dad would disown us. Lol. Ugh I'm just st a loss.