long story short, TMI‼️

I'm 8 months pp, and I've not been happy with how I've healed after birth, my vagina is still pretty wide and I now have skin tissue outside of my vagina that wasn't there before birth, also scar tissue at the side of my vagina. I've been referred to gynaecologist for a second opinion as my doctor says I look normal, but compared to how I was before it's nothing normal at all. Well since having my baby I can't wear tampons because the blood still comes out the sides of it, surely this isn't normal, and no my tampon isn't needed changed it happens literally 15 mins after putting one in. I need some advice, surely this isn't right!?