Does anyone else absolutely abhor this term and cringe when they see or hear anyone use it to describe a lost pregnancy?!  I have had 4 miscarriages, all varying from 5 to 8 weeks when I lost them. All very early and only one made it long enough to be confirmed with an ultrasound. However, they were all VERY REAL. I was pregnant and then I wasn't.   And again, and again, and again. The joy and pain were all very real.  I see that term so much on these forums that I actually used it when speaking with my REI last week. She stopped me, mid-sentence, and told me not to use that term. I WAS pregnant 4 times and each were lost.  I can't describe how that made me feel... vindicated?... that someone other than myself was acknowledging the very real losses I have felt.  I was overcome with emotion because I felt like I could finally express my sadness and grief over my four angel babies.  To everyone else struggling and those who have experienced multiple losses (esp those still TTC #1 in your 30s and 40s), you are not alone. I'm praying for us all and looking forward to the future, whatever it might bring.