So is it sad that me and my bf are 25 years old and have the sex life of 80 year olds? We have 2 kids and share a small room with them so sex is non existent when their home, well they were staying the night at my dad's last night so we decided to try and get it on... Before we dropped them off we took them out and all day we teased and talked sexual to each other... I was ready and couldn't wait to drop them off. We got home and got in bed he wanted to jump right in but I wanted to tease a little and take our time so I wouldn't let him put it in(my hoo ha)so we did anal(this would have been twice the first time hurt to much)all he did was put it in, sit up and he went. He laid back down and I could tell the disappointment in his voice he was about cry; this is the second time we had sex and he went within a few min. He got up this morning while getting ready for work just apologizing asking if I hated him and that he will make it up. I lost that spark we had in our relationship(it has been 8 years)so it has been rocky and we have been trying to rekindle that flame and I know this didn't help him because he thinks I hate him over it which I don't. Idk what to do.

His mom, brother and my brother live with us and his dad lives in the back yard so having sex anywhere but the room is a no go. I tell him when he goes before me that it is ok I don't mind. He does ask if he wants me to finish me by vibrator or fingers and i tell him no, it feels good but it's not the same as a real penis lol. I tell him it's ok when I'm gone with the kids that he masturbates but we did have a fall out 3 years ago when he would watch it behind my back knowing how I felt about it and I was insecure pregnant women So he won't unless he does and doesn't tell me. We have watched it together since so idk if he won't because he's afraid I'm gonna get upset but what i do know is he says he doesn't want to because he wants the real thing truth or lie idk.