Even when my guy is fingering me or going down on me and it feels great, I can't have an orgasm.. only when I'm by myself. I've read a lot of an orgasm can be mental and I definitely start pressuring myself while he's down there. Any tips on how to completely relax, let go, and psychologically help myself reach an orgasm. I'm so close but it never happens and I think it's because my mind starts racing.