So my boyfriend and I have both been emotionally abused in many forms, and lately the stress of this new semester and the deconstruction part of my therapy has been making us not the best fit. He needs space, because I've said and done some hurtful things, and I've already forgiven him for the hurtful things he's said and done (although he says I'm too forgiving of him, but I can't be mad at him when I've done the exact same thing... anyway), and me being ridiculously loving and open and affectionate is going to drown him right now. But he doesn't want to ask for space, partly because he likes spending time with me, and partly because we both have a crippling fear of abandonment. He's afraid that if he asks for space that I'm going to feel abandoned or leave him behind. And while consciously we both know that won't happen, the fear is still very real and very present for both of us. I just want to make him happy and give him what he wants/needs. Spring break starts tomorrow so we're getting a little over a week apart, but we're both lost on what to do about this because we don't want to break up or take a break. Suggestions are greatly appreciated.
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