Please help me im wanting to end myself???

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My baby is 9 months and for 2 months I've been getting 6 hours sleep every 48 hours she wakes up every 3 hours. I cant take this. She crys all day long, I cant take care of myself to even feed myself most days. I literally cant do anything. The father is in prison and my family that I live with doesnt help me AT ALL. His family hasnt even met her before and never even texts or calls or anything. I feel like I want to just end myself because this is making me crazy. I never and I mean never get time to myself to even be able to enjoy a shower. Please please help me. What do I do? I've tried controlling her naps, she just doesnt stop crying and im talking she can cry for 2 hours non stop just throwing a tantrum dripped in sweat. I cant even clean or anything. She falls asleep like twice during the day and after only 20 minutes of a nap wakes herself up. I cant take this anymore....i feel like i cant be a mother. I dont want to ever get to the point i hurt her out anger. Im angry and i cant do this i really cant. Im crying my heart out right now.

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You need to get yourself to your doctor today, now, asap. PPD us a serious issue. There are programs out there that will bring in a specialist into your home to help you. I dont believe they charge anything.  I really hope you can get the help you need. Dont be too proud to ask your doctor for help.

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Mama please get help. It's not ok for you or the baby to feel this way. This is serious. You might have ppd. Prayers for you.❤️

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Have you got a friend that you could go to? Maybe they could watch the baby while you rest? 
Are you in a financial posistion to afford any kind of daycare? Perhaps  baby could go there for just one morning a week that could give you a little time to yourself. 
I would also be inclined to take baby to the doctor. This has been going on a long time. Perhaps there is an underlying issue? Maybe they could suggest something that might help? 
You said you live with family... could you sit and talk with them and tell them how tough you're finding things at the moment? 
This is the worse it will be. Keep reminding yourself that your baby loves you and you CAN take care of her, you're just having a difficult time right now. Be kind to yourself. 
It's awful but if you need to eat, put baby down somewhere safe and eat. You can't look after her unless you look after yourself.
As for sleeping, have you tried putting her in a sleep sack? My son sleeps better in one of those. He can still use his arms and kick his legs but he stays warm. Try giving her a bath before bed, have a story and then put her to bed. Try and establish a bed routine maybe? Mine is bath at 6.30, bottle at 7, bedtime story at 7.15 then he gets out in his cot. It took a few weeks but it has worked. We never did CIO. 
Good luck. You've got this

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Aww mama please seek medical help you may be going through depression have you got any friends that could help you out or spoke to your family about how you're feeling also your baby may be in some kind of pain whys she's crying so much

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I'm so sorry for your heartache. You are not alone! Thank you for reaching out here, it's a good first step!   I hope you can hear the concern for you and your baby in the responses and I pray that you will be courageous enough to call your doctor for help. Also, call your local county health department--your doctor might have the number or Google County Heath Department or Department of Heath and Human services. They may have nurses who will visit you in your home for no charge to offer help and support on a variety of issues. I know for myself that if I don't get at least a few hours of sleep, I simply don't cope well, and then my baby picks up on my tension and becomes tense too.  I don't have the magic answer for how to break the cycle other than to get others involved (doctor, heath department, any program they suggest) I'm not sure your thoughts about church, but there are usually a bunch of "grandmas" willing to help with your kiddos if you show up and ask for help. That has been one of my saving graces.I wish I lived in your town and could come sit with your baby so you could get some rest. Don't give up!! You are not alone!! There is help for you!  I'll be praying for you.

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Seek out help, and if one person doesn't help, ask someone else. In the city I live in (Cleveland Ohio ) there is a program that helps prevent child abuse by helping out parents who need a break. I think the program is called Providence House. Maybe there is something similar near you. If not, maybe there's a mom in your area who also needs a break and would be willing to take turns with you watching the kids (if you can't afford day care or a babysitter)

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You and baby need to see doctors ASAP. You for possible PPD and baby for her stomach discomfort which is likely what's going on. Very rarely do babies cry or not sleep for no reason. Crying like that is a viscious circle. It can make her gulp in air which creates gas which makes her cry. The pain from gas/stomach problems keeps her awake and then she becomes overtired until she passes out. Then it begins all over again.

She's not even a year old yet. Remember she's trying to tell you something is wrong. She isn't throwing a tantrum.

If she's breastfed look at your diet. Could she be sensitive to something you're eating or drinking? Eliminate possible allergens one by one. If she's formula fed what formula is it? She may need to change.

For you, in the meantime, I suggest babywearing. She wants and needs to be close to you when she's feeling bad. Baby wearing frees up your hands so you can eat or do things you need to. This is the only way I can get dinner made and get my eldest ready for bed alone.

When you need to shower, take her in with you. She should be able to sit up so she can sit on the shower floor and play. You can also do baths with her. Find a baby bath chair or use a bumbo seat in the bath for her while you bathe. Water always helped calm my girls. Try a walk or play in the yard.

Look at awake time info. I also used info about the wonder weeks which are periods of time in their lives when they're going to go through that are rough.

I hope these tips help. I understand parenting alone. My husband works long weird hours as a police officer and our youngest is 5 weeks old. With my eldest, he was in the army. It was and has always been mostly me parenting. It's doable, just tough. But be sure to take care of yourself. Don't feel ashamed of needing to talk to a dr. I'm currently on Zoloft for PPD. I didn't have it the first time so it's an adjustment this time. No shame in it.

Please help me im wanting to end myself???

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