So we are generally in a good place with eachother, my so and I. but I find it hard to talk about things when they aren't good. I don't remember to talk about it until he's asleep and then I sink into my thoughts. It's not that we can't talk to eachother about our issues with eachother as adults Its that I literally just get wayyyy to busy with life and my job and all the crap I have to keep up with. So until my mind settles, the problems in our relationship go on the back burner. So I started writing him letters and pouring everything out onto paper for him to read when he wakes up in the morning. 2 weeks into me writing notes to him the "bad" things-even though small, he has acknowledged them and is trying to change them. He's gotten to the point that he gets excited for the letters lol I may have made them lowkey love letters. But it still gets my point across and makes things a lot easier. Especially since we both work and are always tired and life is going 100 or nothing. He's even started writing back lol And no it didn't take him 2 weeks to acknowledge me it's that the letters have gotten deeper into detail over time.