oh labels

I was talking to my best friend today and I was telling her about my lack of a sex drive, I have no desire to do anything with anyone or even diddle it myself. And I said maybe I'm asexual, and she said "well didn't you want to do stuff with ___ (my ex)" and I said "yeah but that's because I loved him and knowing that someone loves you and cares about you is such a turn on." And she said "I don't think you're asexual, I think you're demisexual, you can only really want to do things with a person you love"