I have absolutely no desire to have sex. Not only that, but when we do have sex, it's really uncomfortable or hurts my hips and pelvis. I was never like this before. We would have sex multiple times a day on the weekend and a couple nights of the week. Now, it's probably been only once in the last 2 or 3 weeks. I know he's probably dying to have sex, so I want to go ahead and do it for his sake. Problem is he goes pretty hard and right now that hurts. I ask him to be gentle, but that doesn't really do anything for him. Normally, I'm totally cool with him being rough and going hard, but I can't do that right now.

Any advice on how we can both get what we need right now.