when did you decide you wanted a baby, and if it wasn't planned how did you cope?

Question

So my partner have been together for about two years and at the moment we are in a really good place we have moved in together and I feel closer to him then ever before. 
We bother have always been open from the start on both wanting a big family and for me I've always wanted nothing more then to be a mum and he knows that, about 4 months ago I got pregnant and it wasn't planned but we were really excited but 8 weeks in I lost it which unbelievably hard but we managed and he was so incredible.
Anyway so for the last few weeks I've been almost craving the whole experience of being a mum. I am only young soon turning 19, for me it would feel natural to have a baby now both my sister and mum started when they were around my age and think they were better for it. 
I would just like to hear from you lovely ladies who either have children of your own or who have had the same urge to be a mum before and your views!

Answer

I had my first living baby at age 19. I had a stillbirth at 21 weeks when I was 18. I absolutely love it. It gets hard, but it's worth it. There are times I get stressed and don't know what's wrong. But when I figure it out and she gets happy or falls asleep in my arms it's worth it. But remember you loose some of your freedom. You can't go out with your friends when you want to, can't just up and go on vacations (takes more planning with a child). But if your ok with that then I don't see the problem. My friends said it's horrible to have kids so young, but when they are 30 changing diapers and up all night with a newborn, I'll have an 11 year old who can for the most part take care of herself.

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My boyfriend and I were together for three months when we got pregnant unexpectedly (best friends for four years) we lost tge baby at 5 weeks.  We then decided that we wanted to try again.  Got pregnant two months later,  lost the baby again... we decided to stop trying.  a month later we found out we were pregnant, were vey excited but thrown off.  We're now 8 weeks along almost 9 weeks and got our first sonogram.

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My husband and I never wanted children. We were content with the way our life was and didn't want a baby to change that. After being together for 6 years, 3 of those married, I started getting the fever really bad. We ended up talking off and on for months about having a baby and we finally decided that we did want a baby after all. We had been together a little over 6 years by the time our son was born. I was almost 26 and he was 27. Best decision we ever made. Same thing with our second/last pregnancy. We were content with just having one child. When our son was 6, we decided we did want another baby and she was born when he was 7 1/2.

when did you decide you wanted a baby, and if it wasn't planned how did you cope?

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