RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS 😪

.. My boyfriend talks to me like this almost everyday. He always expects me to be honest with him, yet when i am theres always some way he makes me feel like shit about the situation for the rest of that day. Hes only 3 years older than me but hes always getting onto me about me needing to grow up and mature soon or it wont work. I know myself and others know me to handel situations realistically and be mature about things, but even little things he will get on me about. He has touched me before in a harmful way, out of anger. The very next second he realized what hed done he cried and apologized. This was only the first time. The second time he put his hands on me was when he found out i had lied to him about an old guy friend, he put his hands around my neck, threw me onto the couch, then picked up a crowbar and started to swing it up but he stoped and made it into a joke by saying "i would never do that to you". Same day not long after he did this we got in the car to go to my place, when we got half way there he turned back around like going back to his house and he thretened to wreck the car. He didnt wreck we went back to his place and evuntually made up fhat night sorta.. We never really make up we just kinda come to the realziation that no matter how much everything &everyone (my mom hates him soo much.) is pulling us apart we just cannot be apart..or at least i cant gather enough control or power to cut off something that isnt going to work..