Getting pleasure down there!

So my husband of 8 years hasn't went down on me in 4 yrs. I've been complaining about it, and had to start refusing giving him head until he can go down on me. He just told me he wanted to go down, so I freshened up for the surprising occasion!! 😁😁 I was super excited!   He started and just kept licking my urethra area.....😒. Ugh!!!!! I was not reciprocating the feeling and informed him to go down more in the Vag region. He started going down again, however, just repeated what he was previously doing....I got upset and stopped the act, told him that he needs to go down further and he stated that no woman like their "hole" sucked on. I countered with "umm, yes they do we actually Love it!!! He and I were both turned off after that point...he got upset at me for embarrassing him, since he said it's been forever since he's went down there....he even made a snide comment about my gay lady friends, claiming that I am or had received better head from them!!?? He went to take a shower as we both stated that at this point we were both turned off.