Afraid? having existential crisis? can I do this?

Question

Until about 3 hours ago I had everything planned to a T and felt so confident. Now, I'm a wreck. 37 weeks I was ready. Now at 38 I'm petrified.

I felt really confident until tonight. Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. Like maybe I wasn't cut out for my natural labor plan(birthing center, midwives, doula, no drugs). Or to even be a mom. I mean, I think I'll be a good mom. Everyone says I will. And he is so wanted. But. I'm really scared and overwhelmed all of a sudden. Like I've made some huge mistake or ruined my life. Or I won't be...enough.

Anyone else suddenly scared or overwhelmed? I've been so focused on how miserable I feel. How extremely uncomfortably pregnant I am. That I haven't let it sink in.

If you asked me 12 hours ago if I was ready to have him I would've said you bet your ass! Now, I'm still tired of feeling miserable. But I'm also terrified of all the plans I was SO SURE about.

Ever experience it?
Are you experiencing it now?
How did you stop it?
Or did you stop it?
Did it get better or worse in labor? After?

Thanks all.

Answer

What you're feeling is 110% normal and I'm pretty sure if you don't go through it something's wrong with you lol. It's scary. Before you only had to take care of yourself now there will be this tiny human (outside your body) exposed to the outside world and that's a scary place and a scary idea that it's all up to you. This panic and fear faded away within a couple weeks of my daughter being born. You'll make mistakes, like forgetting you have a headboard and putting her too far back on your shoulder to burp her so she hits her head on it. You'll cry cause how could you as a mother do such a cruel thing to your newborn, but just remember to breathe. It's a huge learning curve and very rightly is scary. It gets better though I promise. Things become routine, you gain confidence, you can do it! Just remember you're not perfect. Things will go wrong, just keep loving on your babe and remember to have a good support system and actually using it can help you immensely. You got this.

Answer

Yes I'm feeling it :( 
I've been so confident these past few weeks saying get this baby out I'm so ready to be a mum and now that it's all becoming so real I'm freaking myself out and thinking all these crazy thoughts.. don't worry your not alone !!

Answer

Yes! I think it's a natural feeling, especially with your first child. I'm scared that I'm not going to know what I'm doing. I'm scared of "failing " at breastfeeding. I'm scared of becoming overwhelmed or depressed because I've dealt with depression before. I'm scared of labor and not knowing what to expect. Nevertheless, I'm positive that I'll get through it and get the hang of it sooner or later. You'll be fine... just try not to focus on the what ifs and just be in the moment. It's easier said than done though...

Afraid? having existential crisis? can I do this?

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