I had my son 2 days ago, when I tell people my birth story (or my MIL tells them because she can recollect it more accurately and awhole lot better than I can)

It was my first baby, I had a water birth, only used gas and air and pushed out a whopping 9lb 2oz baby with absolutely no tearing

The birth took took a very scary turn when babies shoulders got stuck and his heart rate dropped to 60 bpm. 2 hours of pushing he finally was born! My gorgeous baby boy.

I'm pretty damn proud of myself!

That was until I got out of the hospital and have had women family/friends come and visit me and decide that their birth was far worse than mine or that I'm doing stuff wrong.

Our family friend had a 10lb 10 baby via c section and is insisting that I had it easy giving birth to a 9lb 2oz vaginally. I am not slating her for having a c section whatsoever but please don't tell me that your heavier baby was more difficult than mine when we had completely different types of birth.

My fiancé aunt was telling me that I'm not feeding him right and that her 2 sons were 'such good feeders' and then telling me my house is too cold and that the baby is shivering ( he had on 2 layers of clothing and and 2 woolly blankets and he was not shivering he was quivering at people's touch) and then telling me my baby's poo doesn't look right (I am currently formula feeding cus my milk hasn't come in yet)

When my MIL was excitedly telling her family that I birthed my baby naturally and what a good job I did the grandma's reaction was 'well I gave birth to a baby that big without pain relief..so what?'

I feel like I'm being patronised the hell out of by all these women. I was feeling really proud of myself and it seems like majority of then are out to make me feel like shit, and that I'm not allowed to have 'my moment'