What's wrong with me??

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I don't want sex. Ever. I have an almost 6 month old baby and I breastfeed. My husband and I haven't had sex since before LO was born. Am I a bad wife? Should I just suck it up and give him what he wants? It's really starting to affect our relationship...and I do feel bad about it...but I seriously don't want to have sex. Should I go to the doctor? I really don't know what to do about this. Any help would be appreciated.

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I would try having sex. Sometimes I'll go days without being in the mood then my husband will initiate and after making out for a few minutes I'll be in the mood. Usually getting started will get me in the mood. If I find that I'm still not in the mood then most times I will stop it, sometimes I don't because I don't really care lol. I'll have days where I'm completely impartial and will have sex just because my husband wants it. I'd never tell him that because he'd feel horrible but there are times where if it were up to me we wouldn't have sex for a few months and I feel bad about that. You could always talk to your doctor and see if there is something you could do to increase your sex drive. Maybe it's a hormonal imbalance?

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I would try having sex. You never know you may enjoy it

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You should never suck it up in order to make someone else happy. Just explore why you don't want to have sex anymore. Maybe you don't feel sexy, or think your partner isn't sexy, or maybe you think because you are a mother you are not <> to have sex anymore?

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I'm like this but I'm currently pregnant. I haven't really wanted to have sex at all since before this pregnancy like since I had my daughter year and a half ago my hormones are just not there like they used to be then we got pregnant around the time she was turning one so it has been even worse with me being pregnant but I'm in this I'm nothing more than a mom. It's def taking a toll on our marriage as well. Which I partially feel bad but then again sex ain't everything and I can't help if I'm not horny and he shouldn't get mad at me for my hormones not being there. Not our fault! But if I was in your shoes I'd def go talk to your gyno and see if there is a hormone in balance and if there is something you should be doing for it. Not for the sakes of sex but just to be healthy. I plan to do the same if I don't get back to normal a bit after the baby is born.

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Never force yourself to do something you don't want to do but keep in mind sex is not the most important thing in a relationship but it is important, it's a special way of keeping connected. I don't think it would hurt to start talking to your doctor about it, it would at least show your husband that you are trying and do in fact care.

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I would talk to him about it. I'm not a very sexual person to begin with, but My depression really affected my sex drive. I would really try to get in the mood with him and then have sex and maybe it'll spark something. And listen I get you don't want to, but I didn't either and I saw my husband getting really affected by it and thinking I didn't find him attractive anymore. I faked it till I made it a couple times and it helped get the spark back.

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