Can you ever get through a betrayal with a partner?

Question

My girlfriend and I had been together for 2 and a half years but were going through a rough patch. We lived together and had gotten engaged a few months before but everything changed when she got a new job and was working far too much. We broke up but still had every intention of getting back together. We still text every day after we broke up, even though sometimes it was just to argue. We had gone a few days where we were arguing pretty bad but then a few days later, things changed and we were really loved up again. I had planned to go to Spain for a couple of months to give us both some space to breathe and really appreciate eachother. Before I went, we became really close again. We were going on dates, sleeping together and it made me realize everything I loved about her. I only lasted a few weeks in Spain before I came home but when I came back, I found out she had slept with another girl she works with whilst we went through the bad few days of arguing. That is why she was so loved up with me suddenly again before I left for Spain. She said it's because it made her realize how much she loved me and she'd do anything to make it up to me. I am madly in love with this girl but I am disgusted and so hurt by what she has done. The fact she could sleep with me a few days later like nothing had happened makes me feel so gross but she has admitted everything she has done is wrong. I'm just so confused and hurt and I don't know what to do. Have any of you guys stayed with your partner after a betrayal and gotten through it? If so, how did you forgive and forget? X

Answer

If you guys were still together that is cheating, I know it's really hard but that is not acceptable. Going through a rough patch isn't an excuse to lust and have sex with other people. You should talk to her and see if she is really ready for a relationship and is sure that you will be enough for her. The fact that she betrayed you with someone she works with and will see constantly is also a little concerning. Good luck, I really hope everything works out. Communication is key.

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This isn't exactly the same, but basically I've been on/off with this guy since I was 14. Well, my sophomore year of college, we weren't together, but I was still in love with him. Near the middle of my second semester, I found out he got someone else pregnant. I was completely devastated. I sunk into a deep depression. I stopped going to class, stopped eating, stopped turning on the light in my room, and eventually stopped getting out of bed. I had to go to counseling to get through the rest of the semester. During the summer, he got in touch with me to tell me that the other woman had lost the baby. He also told me that he had basically been depressed too. We bonded and I forgave him. So, yes it's possible, but it wouldn't be without counseling and good communication

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Don't ever forget, you always remember because it can happen again. If you want to stay with her then do so, just let her know that you're gonna need to time to get over what happened and that if it happens again you're going to leave. I stayed with an ex after he cheated. He sounded very remorseful and i tried to act like it didn't happen, it made it worse trying to forget. Its like it haunted me. If you give yourself time to actually get over it, you'll feel better. Always talk to your partner if you feel like they're doing it again, they may get mad but you won't be able to help having insecurities when your beginning to forgive them

Can you ever get through a betrayal with a partner?

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