Pregnancy hormones or legitimate

Last night was wrestlemania, big show, and I missed it because I was stressing to get my daughters clothes away in her drawers and my husband just repainted her room and was putting everything back in order. Now my husband and I watch wrestling together a lot so he was a bit ticked off that I wasn't watching it with him and I had our daughter to come sit down and she was very hyper he yelled at her to sit down and she hit him. Since I'm very strict on the hitting, I dragged her ass upstairs to her room and told her to say goodnight to everyone. I made a simple request, she can stay up late and watch John Cena or go to bed.. it was obvious she wasn't, apparently my husband says I was a bit excessive and it was unnecessary. He complained to his mom about me, while I was reprimanding our angry 4 year old and explaining to her hitting is a big no no and we do not use our hands to express frustrations. This is a big thing I have been working on with her and she's been getting better so when she acts out I am going to be "excessive" I don't want my little girl thinking it's ok to hit. She tends to act out a lot and I think it has something to do with my MIL over mothering my daughter and correcting everything I practically do with her in front of my daughter so when I am alone with her I have a hard time doing what I think is best and my daughter responds with "grandma let's me do it" it BuGGgGS ME OUT!!!!  So we enrolled Our daughter in early special education to correct anxiety and speech issues (which hers are very minor and mostly behavioral) and apparently now I completed the forms wrong and my MIL told my husband that I need to re write it. So my husband tells me at dinner and I kinda gave him an attitude about it because I'm tired of her, I really am, it's more than helping it's taking over and pushing her parenting on me, and if I don't agree with her it's a nightmare. IDK but my husband is now upset with me and even said "i don't even want to come home anymore" which really really hurt!  So am I being over dramatic? Please be honest. 

Btw,... I have a history of raising myself and trust issues because of family issues I have grown up with.