visiting after baby and boundaries

My mom is just not understanding or liking the idea of delayed visits or short visits the days and couple weeks after baby is born.. my husband is taking 2 weeks off work right after the baby is born and I really want this time for our little family to bond and get into a schedule.. she gives me the biggest guilt trip ever and talks about how she was/is such a good mom like I owe this time to her.. I don't think that's fair and I really need to do what's best for me new little family.. 😭😭😭😭 feeling so sad and overwhelmed and the baby isn't even here yet.. do I sound like a crazy person?