Is my boyfriend abusive?..

So today he got mad at me and walked away said he was packing his stuff (this was over something so stupid btw) I ran after him and said "please stop, & grabbed the bag out of his hands" and he grabbed my arms and pushed my into this chair & was all aggressive towards me.. Idk if it was play fighting or not.. Well than I made him dinner & he said "it's to salty" and insulting it but ended up eating it anyways and what not 🙄... Tonight he got into a fight w/ his dads wife when he went over there & came home & was so rude to me, told me he doesn't want to talk about anything & told me to "shut up" than told me to get changed into something sexy because he wants something good from me.. He pulled my hair and pushed me into the counter & told me to "go now".. idk if he thinks he is boss, idk what to do?...