My bf & I have known each other for 6 months now & have been together for 4. I met him through a mutual friend, at first we were friends with benefits hooking up almost every weekend whenever we got the chance. We both wanted a more serious relationship later down the road with other people. I was on alot of dating sites while hooking up with him & so was he. Later on in December, he told me that he was having feelings for me & wanted the FWB thing to stop & that we should be bf & gf.

I said Yes then deleted all my profiles from the dating sites, and so we began our journey as a couple.

Even though he has me I know that he is still on those sites & he told me that he had deactivated his profile from all of them but he still has the apps on his phone!! I asked him about it & he says that its just there & he never goes on it 😑.

One day my housemate showed me a picture of him from one of the sites & asked me if it was him, I took one look & the feeling of anger & betrayal just came over me. At first I thought it was his old profile that he probably forgot to delete however my housemate told me that she had received a notification that he had "checked" her out & he was online a few minutes ago & his profile picture was recent because it had the background of his new place that he just moved into a few weeks back after he had asked me out 😒. Everytime we're together his fone just goes off the hook with texts from women he had met through these sites. He claims that they're just friends but the consistency of the texts back & forth tells me otherwise.

He is on a student visa from Nigeria doing his postgraduate in IT here in Brisbane, Australia. As part of his visa requirement, he has to do a few hours a week of casual work, one of his workmates that he had worked with a few months back is always texting him & he says that they're just friends until lastnight she posted a picture on his fb timeline & the title of the picture read "Perks of Dating Me." WHAT THE ACTUAL??!!

Never once whenever we're

together would I receive a text from anyone let alone guys & yet while he's texting all these women he gets frustrated that I don't text him back anytime of the day & that he has to do the texting!!

He talks about most of these women(most of whom are Australian) telling me that they love black men, one in particular has already slept with 13 of them in 2 months & she wanted to make my bf her 14th until he told her that he has a gf. He says some nasty things about them & yet he's still texting them & are even friends with them on facebook!

Today when we were sitting on the lounge his fone went off a couple of times & I just shot a look at him & he looked at me & just kept texting the person on the other line. I asked him if he has told these women that he has a gf now cause they wouldn't be constantly texting him, he just told me that he didn't wanna talk about it now & I'm wondering when is he ever gonna talk about it?? Till the next text comes?? Till I call for a break up??

He is generally a nice guy & has a great sense of humour & I really like him but the only thing that is pushing us apart is that phone 😠😠😠.

Have anyone been through a similar situation? How did you get through it without ruining your relationship?

How do I bring this up again without creating any hostility between us???

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