So my partner & I have been together for nearly 3 years and along the way we had a son which will be 2 in 4 months. And so instead of talking about sex by saying the word we came up with a nickname called 'chill.' (Originated from 'Netflix & Chill)' And my partner works ALOT which starts his day at 3:30 AM most mornings. Sometimes I can tell if he's in the mood to 'chill' when he gets home from work. So like I ask 'Are we chilling tonight?' So I can get prepared and we do but that's basically how it is. We just 'chill.' We don't like lead up to it like when we were in the early stages in our relationship. And I know with work and baby and things. I just wish it was like we wouldn't even plan to chill like it could just happen and passionately. But it's not like that anymore. It's like 'chill,' roll over than go to bed. There's no spontaneity anymore and it's making me turn off from sex... 😏