Godmother

Ugh. I'm in a bind... I had selected and asked my cousin to be my daughters godmother and now I am regretting my decision.  Of course I asked her when I was still pregnant. She has had some big obstacles in her life recently (one major being just was sent to rehab for alcoholism) and although I understand we all have issues my biggest issue is that my daughter is 5 months old and she hasn't even met her yet! She only lives 30 mins away and there has been no effort to meet or see her. No calls no visits. I'm shocked and hurt by this because I never would have thought she wouldn't have met her yet or I would be feeling this way with her baptism a few weeks away. Can I unask her? I really think she needs to focus on herself and her road to recovery and I also don't want a godmother that makes no effort to see her goddaughter. Ugh.