Yesterday (Sunday the 23rd) my sister, who's 23 and lives in California (I'm 18 in AL), called me to tell me something. She broke up with her boyfriend of a year and a half in late February and because of the cost of living out there hasn't been able to move out of his place yet. She'll be moving out on the 29th.

Anyway. This past weekend she went out drinking with her friends from work and came home very drunk (they had a DD and everything) and passed straight out. She woke up Sunday morning to her ex's hand on her thigh and no pants on. She asked him to move because he was making her uncomfortable and he said, "That's not what you said last night when I was eating you out." Note that he was completely sober whereas she was drunk passed out in her bed.

She has bad anxiety already and I told her to pack her things while he was at work and stay with a friend until the 29th. She took my advice so far. I also suggested she go to the police as soon as she feels comfortable doing so, and tell her friend Gail what happened so she'll have in person support (Gail is a 40 y/o very maternal woman helping my sister move out so she seemed the best option). However, I'm still really worried.

She wants to wait until she moves out to tell the police so that she can be separated. I don't know what the best thing for her to do is and I don't know the California state laws. I know if she was drunk and he wasn't then he took advantage of her and that constitutes as rape. She doesn't know when she can report it or how long she can wait to do so and she still doesn't know what all happened. I suggested that she take a plan b pill to be safe and asked our mom to call her and check on her without letting on that she knows something is up (our mom is wildly overdramatic and Its up to my sister to tell her what happened, but my mom also has more worldly experience and legal knowledge and is a rape survivor herself).

What else can I do? What can my sister do? I'm trying to help her but it's hard because of how far away I am. I've become her best friend and I don't even know how to emotionally comfort her right now. (neither of us have ever experienced sexual assault or worse until just now when it happened to her.) Should I tell my mom or go to the police or..? And how do I comfort her and help guide her through this?