family fuede

** Long Post**

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I'm writing this as sort of a rant I suppose.

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So my partners mum and I have fallen out over a reason she doesn't think is fair. Basically my daughters 1st birthday is 7th July 2017; which is a Friday. As everyone we invited (family&friends) work that day we decided to hold our daughters birthday party on Saturday 8th July; meaning everyone could attend.

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I hadn't really confirmed 100% with my boyfriend this, but I had said in October 2016 (daughter 3 months old) that if her birthday fell on a weekday we'd have her birthday on that weekend, hopefully that makes sense.

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So in January his mother rang and told us that she had booked her wedding on the 8th July 2017 (even though she has always said she doesnt want to get married); she knows full well that would be the day we'd throw the party as everyone would be available. However apparently thats the only day the church had - which i looked online and its not true, and even so there is 365 days in a year she could've picked any. She's always tried to seperate myself and my boyfriend and when she found out i was pregnant with my daughter she didnt talk to my for 3 months (even though we visited to her house) and only wanted to be involved 3 weeks before our daugher was born; shes always taken the attention of everything me or my daughter do. so i feel she done it intentionally as shes getting married the day after our daughters birthday, her anniversary will always be after her birthday - taking the shine. - hopefully you get what i mean.

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Shes pretty much said that if my partner doesnt go to the wedding he'd be dis-owned, or they'd have nothing to do with him; basically making him pick his daughter or family - he picked hes family, so I had to change her birthday so he could be there and everyone else in hes family could be there; although I think he should've picked hes daughter, but i guess no on likes the thought of losing their family - which is why i changed it.

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Myself and our daughter haven't seen hes mum since 28th December - she hasnt even attempted to apologise or ask to see her granddaughter. And being completely honest I wont until she apologises and we wont be atrending her wedding. we've recently found out that we're expecting baby no2 and she hasnt even bothered mentioning anything about me, our daughter or the pregnancy when my partner sees her.

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The thing is, i dont want anyone to think im being cruel or over reacting, i just feel what she done is wrong!

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what do you think? am I over reacting?

** no horrible comments please **

EDIT

- no invitations were sent, but she new we were having a party. and its obvious what day it would be as all our family work weekdays.