would you be ok with your boyfriend having a best girl friend and they hung out together alone a lot and would drink together, etc.?

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so my boyfriend has this girl best friend and we have met but they love to do things together, alone. and it bothers me really badly but i left it alone until two nights ago when he went over to her house and they were drinking and alone. this girl does not have a boyfriend and she's honestly a very bad influence and it doesn't seem like she has a lot of moral ground, which is why it scares me that they're alone. what do y'all think?

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I don't have anything against having friends of your desired sex whilst in a relationship BUT it's a little weird that they're alone so often. Like shouldn't that be you..? I'd investigate a little tbh. What's she like around you? Is she really fake or genuine? Or is she a little meh around you? If either of them have a iffy past then it's possible there's something going on here, but if you have no legitimate reason for suspecting she's immoral (or a bad influence) then there's not a lot to go off here. The only thing that stands out is that they're together ALONE quite a lot.

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my boyfriends best friend is a girl and they're roommates. me and her get along, im at their house all the time. she has a son who lives there too. they're super close but i know there's nothing to worry about because i trust my bf and her.

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Continuing. ..
Your bf is the middle point between you two. 
I'd be worry if he acts like if he didn't wanted for you to socialize with her.
Is up to him to give a chance, and whaf happens after that is uo to you and her. 
But if he's being like "sorry you can't go out with us" then something is going on, or she doesn't like you.

The imw thing is that you need to really know her.

hon, if something is happening between them, is not just the girl, if something is going on then your boyfriend is a cheater.

Anyway, good luck

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Girl bye!! There's a limit to what "best friends" do if one of them is in a relationship. They need to set some boundaries out of respect for you and your relationship. What they did before you can no longer fly because you're now the person trying to be his best friend so you guys can build. I think you should talk to the girl Judy to get a clear picture of where her mind might be regarding him.

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I'm gonna speak out two points. 
I'm a best girl friend, so I've been on the other side you're talking. 
I go out with my friends without their gf and we drink and everything,we are very close, and something very important is that if they for example starting a new relationship and I don't like the girl, there's problems.
I'll be as friendly as I can be with the girl if my friend is happy, but I won't accept it entirely and they know that.
I'm very over protective with them, I don't want any bitch comming around. 
As friends we can spend as much time alone as we want to, and is up to them if they want to include the girl, if they don't want to (if I like the girl I can make the suggestion of include her, if don't, I wont speak for her) If the relationship ends, you'll move on and friends will stay (if they are good friends) relationships come and go until finally the one relationship arrives, but true friends stay and wipe tears of bad relationships or just a relationship that ended.
I was on that situation, the girl was in that very same spot you are now, by then I thought she was nice, so I liked her, but she didn't knew me well, after a while she had the chance to knew me and she adores me now and don't give a shit if I spent way too much time with his bf, meaning my friend, BUT, the chance was given by my friend, I am a good person, in fact my friends know that I respect relationships like a lot,I had a past being in the different parts, being cheated, cheating, and being the one that was use for cheating, and that experience serve me well because I don't tolerate any disrespect to a relationship, so he wanted for his gf to feel safe that there was nothing to worry about when he was with me, because he knew there was something that used to worry her.
That's one point, The other one is that as I said, the bf gives the chance for you two, and you can be friendly with her and get to know her well, after all he is the middle point between you two. Continue comment..

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it's hard. i am super jealous and would hate it but at the same time, my best friend is a guy and when we are home we hang out almost every night. it's 500% platonic but i have trust issues so i would feel awful if my boyfriend did the same thing. obviously i wouldn't stop him but it would eat me up.

would you be ok with your boyfriend having a best girl friend and they hung out together alone a lot and would drink together, etc.?

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