Why do people think it is it ok to put this kind of pressure on MY relationship?

*Warning: Long-winded rant*

I'm 31 and all 3 of my siblings are married and they have 8 kids between them. I've been dating my SO for a little over a year and he moved in just after our 1 year anniversary in February.

Everyone in my family keeps asking when we're getting married, or saying if we want kids we need to start soon. This isn't surprising considering they've been asking me these questions since my youngest sister got married/pregnant almost 4 years ago... while I was still single btw.

Why do people think it is it ok to put this kind of pressure on a relationship?

We JUST moved in together. We want to enjoy this chapter of our relationship before moving to the next. We've talked about the future and where we see this going and we are on the same page. Yes, we want to get married. Yes, we want kids. (He wants 4! I'll be happy with 2, but I'm open to more.) No, we don't think we're ready right now.

Don't ask me my ring size "Just in case he askes for it"

Don't remind me that I'm "not getting any younger" and my "biological clock is ticking"

Don't tell your neighbor that I'm getting married when I'm not! (Seriously people, who does that?!?!)

I get that most people in my family got married and/or had kids young... but looking at where they are now, I'm happy for them, but glad I've waited.

If I had settled down already, I would be miserable. I would be stuck with a husband or baby daddy that was a loser. (I don't have the best dating history)

I own my home. I have a good career. I FINALLY feel financially stable for the first time since leaving my parents' house. ...My siblings don't have all that. They are on WIC and their kids are on Medicaid. And there is nothing wrong with that. Those programs are there for a reason. ...I just want more for my future kids.

And my current relationship is more than I've ever dreamed it could be. We understand and respect each other. We communicate. We both are independently successful and fulfilled in our lives. We don't "need" each other. We "want" each other. I want to focus on US and make sure we have a solid foundation before taking the next step in building our family.

I'm not going to apologize for not making the same decisions they made. I am my own person and there is NOTHING wrong with that.

*rant over* lol