how do I raise a Black man in a society that kills black men

I am pregnant and I don't know if I am having a boy or girl. (Finding out this weekend) Being a black woman is hard. Is it horrible that I would prefer to have a girl in today's political climate. It scares me to death that so many black men, kids as well are being gunned down by police officers. Everyday i am hearing reports of them being found "not guilty" or charges simply being dropped. I can not have a boy, I can not raise a boy in a country where the first president of his life does not support black men. Where is obama?