Cleaning your kids ears

My daughter absolutely hates getting her ears cleaned out. She screams bloody murder, just at the mention of it. Her dad refuses to do it so it's left to me. It's always a battle 30 min long to get it done. I'm left feeling like I'm the worst mom ever, to the point of tears almost. She's very sensitive to noises and anything to do with her ears. I've tried different ways such as warm water irrigation, and a small plastic loop they use in Dr's. Offices. I don't know what to do, I'm seriously at my wits end about it.