no sex or orgasm with cerclage!

I had a cerclage and I can't have any sex but yesterday I wanted it so bad, I gave my husband oral and he accidentally shot me in my eye 🙄😒
I'm just super miserable, I was thinking he could give me oral too but they said I can have contractions if I have a orgasm? What's the point if I can't have one I'm just over it.
Can't have any sandwiches can't have any sex but it's all for my baby.
Some women say they have orgasms in their sleep with the cerclage so how does that work?