Tuesday bible study (05/16/2017

Hello ladies. I pray that each of you are feeling blessed and highly favored on today. 😊 It is so heart wrenching to see so many marriages go down the drain and so many young girl not know what a Godly relationship is to look like and feel like. So, I am hoping and praying that these answers help some of us out on today and we in turn be able to past the message.

We all know that it is God's will that we marry and not part from our spouses. He established that in the beginning in the Book of Genesis.

And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Genesis 2:23‭-‬24 KJV

Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

Genesis 2:22‭-‬24 NIV

But before we get to that point of marriage there is a process we have to go through. When done correctly we find ourselves with Godly husband or husband we can grow with. We will find ourselves with men that we don't have to think about divorce when it comes to them. But when we do it the worlds way. We run into issues after issue. That's not saying that God can't fix those issues its just saying we make it harder on ourselves. The number one thing is we have to learn to love ourselves. Not in an obnoxious or big headed way but in a way that we don't have to settle because we know our worth. When you love yourself you want settle for a liar, cheater, or abusive person. The second thing is being obedient to God.

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord .

Proverbs 18:22 KJV

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord .

Proverbs 18:22 NIV

Its not for us to go searching under rocks, at clubs, in bars, at casino's and or at church for a husband. When we get to a place where God wants us in faith, he will bring a man that he molded special for you into your life. He said whoso findeth a wife, not the woman who findeth a husband. Many times we end up in toxic relationship because we did not wait on God.

Ex. I got my first boyfriend at 16 years old. I had been praying for a husband every sense I knew what an husband was. This guy lied to me, cheated on me, denied dating me. He did everything in the book to break me down and I still stayed. When I finally broke up with him because he slept with my cousin which was the last straw for me. I begin looking on FB, Tagged, just anywhere for a new bf. Oh boy did I meet them. But oh boy did they get worst and worst. Then two almost three years after meeting and dating the worst bf ever I met my husband. You know what's funny? I had finally given up searching for myself. I said, God please bless me with a husband because I give up. I just want love of a husband." Then I stop dating. I begin to truly be single. No more hook ups, nothing. Just hanging out with friends and family. Then God took over because I allowed him to work. When you allow God to be God of your life he will do many great things but only when you decrease so he can increase.

Now when a guy come into your life don't automatically assume he's that man. Lol .

But be virtuous. If he can't handle that don't be afraid to allow him to walk right back out of your life. Being virtuous mean don't have sex until wedding night. No oral, hand play, or regular sex. If you've already been doing this, it's never too late to change.

I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

1 Corinthians 7:8‭-‬9 KJV

But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

1 Corinthians 7:9 NIV

Sex was created by God for marriage. If sex is something you and or your spouse can't live without then marry. If you don't want to marry don't have sex. Sex is a sin against God when done outside marriage. If you love God you will keep his commandments. Don't be like well everyone body else does it! Because, do you really want that to be your excuse when standing before the Lord on judgment day. His direct orders was to not conform to this world. Don't be like everyone else. Be like the Lord.

So, when you do meet your husband remember you are not above him, and he is not above you. Y'all are one flesh. Hopefully while dating you have learned how to pray to God about y'all relationship. Hopefully you've learned to pray for unity and healing for you both. The bible has many chapters on how to be great couple. But right now we are going to focus on how to be a great wife. Or as close as you can to one. Lol . In the book of Proverbs we are given instructions on this..

......to be continued