First Time Sex

Okay ladies, I've tried to have sex two times now.  The first time I tried but the pain was so unbearable I couldn't continue, and the second time we had to stop for other reasons, but I feel like we would have had to stop anyway because it hurt so bad.  My hymen tore the first time.  Is there something wrong with me?  Like it's super frustrating for me because I really want to and it's discouraging for him too and I feel bad but like I physically can't.  Like I'm sure if I could just get past the one part that hurts I would be fine but idk.  Any advice???