Rant: Please don't grab my baby
Every time I see my mother and father in law they think it's okay to grab my baby from me without asking. It really bothers me. When they try to grab her I have politely replied, "thanks I want to keep holding her" or "she's happy right now, I'll hand her to you later". My mother in law has actually gotten better recently, but my father in law either can't pick up these cues or ignores them (I cant figure which).
They just walk up, reach out their hands and take her! Sometimes I get this passsive aggressive vibe when they ask THE BABY if they can hold her. Like, really? When my FiL gets her it's difficult for me to get her back. I feel I have to chase him around the damn party. Even when she starts crying and I tell him she's hungry he doesn't easily give her up. Once he was holding her and I needed to feed her. When I leaned to get her, he pulled her away from me. Of course I was livid that time.I have tried everything from wearing her in a sling, saying no politely, and even asked my husband to get her, but he continues to do it and I think he knows it bugs me.Anyway, I finally couldn't take it anymore and snapped. Recently, I was at a very large family & friends (&friends of friends) cookout. I was in mid conversation. And of course showing off my baby when here comes FIL. He rudely swoops in about to grab and I instinctively responded by pulling her away. 😳 I honestly didn't plan on doing that. And I think I said, "No, I'm showing her off". I instantly felt bad because my FIL (father-in-law) is a sweet man and I didn't mean to embarrass him in front of these ladies, but I couldn't hold it in. I told him it was my pet peeve when anyone grabs her from me like that. I could tell he was a little hurt.
Now I feel bad, because this is their first grandchild, but I also make it a point to give them baby holding time everytime I see them. AND they keep her Monday-Friday while I work 😒 I just feel I shouldn't have to fight them for MY baby girl.
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