How to get three and a half year old to stop pooping in her panties?

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She starts preschool in august and can't go if she keeps doing this. We've told her and reminded her and asked her if she needs to go but she never goes in the potty. She pees great but poops in her panties, sometimes three times a day. She also has a pacifier still. Any advice on that? She cries and cries for it until we give in. Ugh help.

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For the poop find what motivates her.  If she loves baby dolls or a specific type of toy make a chart and for each day she goes poop free she earns a sticker till she completes the chart. For the pacifier we live in the states and the store build a bear will put the paci into the stuffed animal.  Both my girls had to show me they could be without it for a night and then they would get to pick out an animal and it was a big ordeal/ceremony.  Now she gets to sleep with her paci it is just inside the stuffed animal.

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For poop, I got my son special underwear he picked out that he liked. And when he pooped in them I made HIM  throw them away.  he stopped real quick,  and started using the potty. Bc he didn't want to throw away his poppy underwear.  In know it sounds mean but he ruined so many pairs before and just didn't care and we were getting desperate.

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Not sure on what will help her use the potty but let her cry and cry for the pacifier and don't give in. I know it seems harsh and may be hard but she'll eventually stop and realize you're right, she doesn't need it.

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Maybe you could try making her wear a pull up? My thought would be that she wouldn't want to wear that since it's not for "big girls" and she'd see that she needs to go in the potty. And when she starts going to the potty she can wear big girl underwear again.

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It took us a really long time to get my daughter potty trained and I tried everything sitting her in front of the tv making up potty songs reading to her giving her toys not wearing anything. All of it failed until one day I ran out of pull ups and decided enough was enough. I bought her some Minnie Mouse panties and told her that if she pooped on Minnie she would get sick and if she peed on her she would drown it was a scare tactic, but it was the only thing that worked. I always reminded her of her age to so she'd understand that she was a big girl and big girls go to the bathroom like mama and her older cousin zeruiah and that also helped. My daughter was never big on paci's but my little cousin had one until she was almost five. Her parents limited it to her only getting it at night to soothe her to sleep and eventually they cut it out completely. I have an older cousin who drank out of a bottle until he was 3 my grandmother took him somewhere and she purposefully left it there and when he asked for it she told him he left it and he couldn't be upset because if he wanted it that band he would've kept up with it like he does his toys. Maybe something like this will help you. good luck

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My daughter had her pacifier until just before 3. We made taking it away kinda fun. One day we went to the beach and when she wasn't looking because she was focusing on the seagulls I put her paci in my pocket. She ended up asking for it and I told her that the birds thought she was a big girl so they came and took it away. I guess she liked the birds so much that it was important to her to be okay with it. When we got home she told my mom how the birds took her "chupi" and she never asked for it again.

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So when I was little I was scared to poop on the potty 😂 until I got a little book to look at! It was really helpful and had me potty trained fully super quick.

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I've never tried this but I've heard giving them a cold shower to clean off works... sounds harsh but it may help. As for the pacifier, let her cry it out

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Don't give in. Simple as that. When she is crying and wants it, try to distract her by playing with her. If that doesn't cut it, explain to her that its okay and she doesn't need it. If you need to, bribe her. Bringing isn't always bad as long as it's not constant. Say "if you stop crying, we can go get a stuffed animal." Just don't do it every time because then she will expect it. If she successfully does something and is able to go without the pacifier without crying, reinforce the "see you were able to go without your pacifier for this long." Or let her cry it out. As for the potty training, there are multiple options. First, which is what I recommend, every time she does, give her a quarter or a dollar. Then take her to buy something with the money she has made. Or you could do that thing where you take off all underwear and diapers so they kind of have to go on the toilet. I think this is sort of a strange method, particularly for a three year old, but I'll leave that up to you. Lastly, I'd say just look for signs of when she's pooping and run her to the toilet.