not enjoying sex?

Question

is it normal to want to date boys but not enjoy sex with them? im 15 and i've had a couple boyfriends and been in love, but i've only had sex twice (full penetration
sex, not counting any other sexy stuff). the first time i was raped by two guys that i didn't know. the second time was today with my best friend. i obviously didn't enjoy my first time, but i thought it would feel good with someone i cared about. he is very nice and didn't pressure me into doing anything. he ate me out and fingered me but i didn't enjoy it. it was even worse when he was inside me. it hurt and i just wanted it to be over. we went at for almost two hours. he ended up not coming because i wasn't into it. i went home right after because i had to be gone before his mom came home. i felt awful because he didn't come and because i don't enjoy it. i don't think i'm a lesbian because i don't really want to date girls. i have crushes on and feel love for men, so i should enjoy sex with them? is there something wrong with me?

Answer

To be honest vaginas at very much related to our minds and our emotions. Having a traumatic experience like being raped can be in your subconscious, causing an aversion to sex like this. I would consider talking to a good therapist and finding some ways to give yourself an outlet for releasing any emotions about that experience that you are carrying around. Like painting, poetry, therapy, sewing clothes, throwing shit, gardening, welding, idk some way to be an outlet for any lingering emotions. PLUS the first time isn't usually "great feeling" cause it's just a bunch of new sensations that you have to kind of get accustomed to usually. Does your friend know that you were raped? Part of it might be your kind holding back if he doesn't know. Maybe if you're able to communicate super clearly with him about it that could put part of your brain at ease. Hugs!

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Not too many 15 year olds enjoy sex because they don't know anything about sex or their bodies.

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Nothing is wrong with you, it could be because you were raped and now look at it differently. Everyone makes sex sound like it's over everything amazing but really it's not that great...yes it hurts here and there. The more you have it the better your body will open up and handle it making it easier and feel better but at the same time don't rush it.

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There's nothing wrong with you. Don't let anyone, including yourself, tell you that.

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