My friend is 18 weeks pregnant and she isn't ready for a child. She says so herself.

She and her boyfriend (baby daddy) live with her parents in a spider/roach/bed bug infested house in a bad part of town. She is in cosmetology school and doesn't work. Her bf is unemployed, doesn't have his GED, cant drive, smokes weed like a damn chimney, and is just all around useless. So between the two of them, they have no income aside from food stamps.

Bf has another kid that he just signed his rights over on and he owes $4,000 in back child support. And another kid he doesn't have contact with.

If history repeats, her bf won't stick around. But maybe third time is the charm. Neither of them are taking this seriously and they WON'T get jobs. They are always asking for handouts and barely scraping by.

How can I help my friend without coming off as judgemental or rude? I just want what's best for this baby and for my friend.