Not only do I have the stress of the fact that I am about to have a baby, my husband piles on a ton of added stress when it comes to my stepdaughter. I feel like whenever she is at our house, my husband judges every single thing I say and do when it comes to her. He gets so absolutely upset with me constantly because I should want to do more with her, and basically be attached to her every word and move. 

I must say, first off, that I absolutely love her and would do anything for her. We get her every other weekend and a month throughout the summer and a couple full weeks through the year. 

 

Being 8 years old and being in a separated family, she has a bit of an attitude problem from being so spoiled by a ton of different families. I'm not saying that this is her fault, but no one is doing anything to fix it or let her know that this is not okay. On top of that, she has this stuffed animal pig that she has to carrying around still with her EVERYWHERE. And god forbid if it is left at the house or somewhere else, then there is a screaming crying fit of rage that goes on for at least an hour... and no one does anything about that either. She is 8 years old, not 2.

I do get very annoyed & I do feel like she is very spoiled. And my husband makes me feel like absolute shit over it. I try my best, I really do, but the added stress is driving me insane. It makes me second guess how I am going to be with this child. It makes me feel guilty for wanting to love my first born. I don't know... and I wrong for feeling this way? Is the way my husband makes me feel justified?