My husband and I have two kids together, and I had two from a previous marriage. We are currently pregnant with our 3rd together. But both of our families see us having kids as a bad thing. I really dont want to say anything at all, but at the same time I want to tell them. Yes we planned this one, we want another one. And none of our family ever is asked to babysit or help us in anyway... so I feel like they shouldn't be upset... we raise our kids together, we take care of our kids. I just hate the nasty comments about how much work it is, I know... I take care of four... I'm not dumb... we love our kids.