My Fiancé Isn't Going To My D&C Appointment

He's showing you who he is. Believe him and break up. If he can't be there for you in the worst of times then you can't depend on him in the best of times.

I had to get a D&C while my fiancé was working across the country (I was 12 weeks). I feel like he could have taken time off to come with me, but I didn't really stress it. My sister came with me instead. I needed some support and was so glad that she stepped up. This did end up putting strain on my relationship with my fiance. I felt like he didn't understand what I was going through, or that he wasn't hurt by losing our baby that we tried for 11 months to conceive. That was in August 2016, we ended up taking time away from each other for about a month and each seeking therapy on our own. We're now expecting a baby in September and have worked through the friction that was caused by him not coming with me to my D&C. He's super regretful and it still hurts him that he wasn't there to fully support me when I needed him. I don't think he realized how traumatic it would be. I would be honest with your fiancé and tell him you need him there. This situation effects everyone differently, but, like me, it could cause a problem in your relationship if he's not there to support you. Good luck! 

Is it possible he doesn't know how important it is to you? If it's huge, make sure he understands that it's a big deals. You really need to spell stuff like this out for some guys. Also, if they're putting you under for this, he needs to drive you and should be there when you wake up from the anesthesia. 

Honestly Hun he really needs to go. It is a very sad and stressful situation. Be prepared they will ask you if you want to have your baby cremated, have a burial or for lack of a better term "dispose". He may just be hurt and not want to be there for it but this decision is something you both have to agree on and be there for one another. Praying for comfort for you both and sending big hugs.