15 and pregnant...? HELP 😰

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I know this might sound a little odd, but I wasn't sure what group this would fall under and I really need help from at least one person .😫 so please if you can , just take a little time to read .

I am 15 , I have a boyfriend who I love very much and have happily been with him since the 7th grade . He is one year older than me, and we became sexually active about a year ago . At first we never really had sex a lot , only every now and then. but recently about the last 4 months we've been having sex every single weekend . About half the time with no protection, (dumb , I know) and recently I've noticed that my period was late by a week , so we took a test and it came out negative . But since I took that test, I still have not gotten my period. I have not had it all of may and according to the app, I am 28 days late . THIS HAS NEVER HAPPENED BEFORE. I've always had regular periods, and I tried not to stress as least as possible so my period won't be any later. So , my boyfriend said we should take another test next week if it doesn't come by then , and go to our local pregnancy center. But the thing is, I have no idea what to do, or what I need to know to go to the pregnancy center . I don't know my own insurance , I don't even know my own social security  . My mom is the one who keeps track of all that for me , and if I were to ask her she'd ask why and I really don't want to tell her unless I absolutely HAVE to . So if someone just give me some advice about any of this , anything in this whole paragraph , that would help a lot .  And possibly if it's not too much to ask for , maybe I could text one of you just if I have any questions . Thank you 💕

DISCLAIMER: 
No, I was not planning to have a baby at my age . But both me and my boyfriend are good kids . We have good grades , we don't drink, smoke or party .  we BOTH have steady jobs and we each bought a car with our own money . So if you are going to bash me at all for this, I don't want to hear it . I'm sorry, I'm only 15 but I know where I went right and wrong and I just need help and advice at the moment . No more negativity .

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Update (yes I was the one that posted this) : 
Shortly after I posted this I got super heavy bleeding and me and my boyfriend found a way to to get to the pregnancy center immediately , they tested the tissue and I had a miscarriage . I was approximately only 4 weeks, I haven't told my mom, and my boyfriend is not taking it very well.. about as bad as me . We just have our days now, but we'll be fine . I have an appointment this upcoming Wednesday to get on birth control and I will tell the doctors privately about the miscarriage and everything.  Thank you loves .

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Please update, im 17 and pregnant, also been in a long term relationship with my babies father and I understand even though I am almost 18. I have the full support of my mother, Unfortunately my Dad has disowned me and being nearly 23 weeks pregnant now, I dont see him coming around. i hope everything goes well for you as the last thing I know you will probably want for yourself, at 15 is to be pregnant. My birth control failed me but I dont regret my little boy for a minute and I never will, hes my precious little love bug. Again hope everything goes the way that you want but I definitely suggest confiding in your mother as I think she will be more understanding than you think she will, it will be so difficult but it will make you feel alot better even knowing you are not alone,good luck.

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Since you posted this anonymously. Just send me an invite to chat and i can answer any questions...

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Its great you have reached out for help
Not sure which country you are from so that changes my advice a bit.
I know there should be at least a few different counselling hotlines or medical advice call centres you could call and ask for advice...
I guess it would be best to take a test sooner than later to find out what step to take next.
If you are pregnant you will have to talk to your parents obviously-this i know can be really hard and youre probaly really worried, i can tell you that if you are pregnant that your mummy will yes be super angry at you but on the other hand if u hid it or lied i think that she would be hurt more that you couldnt feel as if you could talk to her or go to her.
Lastly i think birth control would be a great idea to look into
I hope youre ok, write back if you need more advice xx

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If you go to a local crisis pregnancy center, they will give you a free pregnancy test and ultrasound if you are pregnant. I was 17 and 18 when I got pregnant. Neither was planned and I miscarried the first. The second time, I went to the crisis pregnancy center and they gave me all of the resources I needed (obgyn referrals, help on how to talk to your family, parenting classes, baby clothes, how to get insurance and all that jazz). It was totally confidential and they inform you of all of your options and give you all of the facts that some other places won't. If you have any questions, feel free to message me.

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Go ahead and take another test, if you are pregnant it should show up by now.

If it comes back negative, I would highly suggest getting on some form of birth control so that this doesn't happen again.

If it comes back positive, I would suggest going ahead and telling your mother. It will suck and it will be scary but in the end she's going to find out anyway so you might as well tell her when you find out so that she can help you get set up with a doctor and take care of your insurance stuff for you.

If you don't want to tell her, then you should be able to pay for the appointment out of pocket and not use your insurance. Also your health information is confidential so they won't be able to tell anyone that you don't give them your permission to tell.

Best of luck 💕

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Talk to your mom. She loves you and whatever the decision you make, you will need the support. Take the pregnancy test again asap before going to the center.

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Well first I say take another test go from there. If it comes out positive call your local pregnancy explain the situation see what they say. If they absolutely need the information you can't obtain then you need to ask yourself what is the next step? If you want to keep the baby my thought process would be tell your mom. You want to make sure the pregnancy is doing good and either way she will find out regardless of when you tell her. Second would be if you dont want to keep the baby and you feel your parent wouldn't support that look into that without them to be able to make that decision. If they would support you speak to them and let them know thats the road you want to take. Now if this all comes back negative what can be happening is your body and menstrual cycle is changing. You're very young your body will continuously go through changes for the next few years. Your period will change as well which can be what is happening. Shoot even now as grown women we ovulate late/early sometimes. Our periods are all wonky. It happens and a lot goes into our menstruation. Biggest thing is if this is just a scare be smart and safe about your sex life. I'm not telling you dont have sex I'm telling you be safe every single time. Prevent these scares and STDs, stis, hiv, aids all that as well. Be wise my dear you have your whole life ahead whether not you used a condom shouldn't be what changes your life so drastically.

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I know you're 15 and you're young but you need to be confronted by reality since you didn't not act responsibly. I'm not shaming you for your age because​ I had sex at your age too, but NEVER would I have ever done it without a condom. Because I didn't want a child.
If you didn't want to get pregnant, you would've taken every precaution possible, but you didn't. So now you need to realize that you need to mature VERY quickly.
You need to tell your mom about your situation. You need to get tested and you must think RIGHT NOW what will happen if you are pregnant.
I'm sorry, but you knew exactly what would've happened if you didn't use protection.

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I've read girls on here telling you to use birth control etc if you don't want a baby, however I'm pregnant and my birth control failed me (it's not 100% effective girls our docs tell us this) 
You may not be pregnant because late periods don't always mean pregnancy, it may be stress or another condition you need looking at. 
Be honest with your mum and tell her what's going on, she won't bite your head off! Your mum loves you and will do all she can to help you, you don't even have to tell her you've been having sex! Even if you go to her and say 'I think something's wrong because it's late' that's when she can sort out your insurance and social security etc. Then if it turns out you are pregnant then take it from there

Best of luck with everything, I hope it all works out in your favour ❤️

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