Advice? Sorry, bit of a wordy read.
Right off, I've literally never been in a long term relationship. Long being anything over a month.
In fact, two years ago I sold everything and moved across the country to start a second job so I could travel overseas full time (I mostly work online anyways).
So meeting someone almost 15yrs older than my 22yrs that I proceeded to move in with, and buy a dog with, after about 6months was a bit of a shock. All plans got tossed and then we talked about me going back to college to finish a four-year to start teaching.
Fast forward to now; he's become clingy and boring. His hobbies seem to no longer be vacations and beaches, they're just video games and tv. I cook and he's draped over my shoulder. Or when I brush my teeth. Or dress. Or any time he's not on the computer. Add on the 2 credit cards we have to pay off (his) and car (his), I've also got another $10k to add on the stress. Which he repeatedly reminds me that 'isn't his fault, he was in hard times and had no other choice but to spend money he didn't have'. I get that. I also lived out of my car for three months between jobs when I could afford an apt. I have no debt. I went to college. Should I be this upset though?
And to top it off, our bedroom life died. Within a year and he clings in bed till it's suffocating but we've not done much else in months unless I initiate. Even then it's never a sure thing. He insists he loves me, finds me attractive, but it doesn't seem to mean much anymore. He's gotten boring. But his clinginess (and literal tears when he's thought we were fighting) is seriously wearing me down.
Don't get me wrong, he's a sweetheart, and he helps with all the chores, and I do love him; but I gave up a life of doing things I never thought I'd be able to do, coming from a small farm town. He doesn't even have aspirations and just works an entry level job. I want to settle down. But I also don't yet. Is it childish to want to give up or does it even seem like there's any saving this?
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