Do my feeling coincide with anyone else's?

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I'm nearly 22 weeks pregnant & while I love feeling my little move, I'm having a hard time accepting my body changes. I've put a big emphasis on how my body looks & now that it looks different, I am having a difficult time adjusting. Also, I'm not eating my best which contributes to the low self esteem I'm feeling. Lastly, my doctor told me at my 18w appt that while I've gained 13 lbs, she normally likes to see women gain 10. It's only a 3 lb difference - I don't know why she even had to say anything! It has made me feel really self conscious.

Can anyone provide encouraging words about pregnancy that were shared with you? Or a more positive way for me to approach the changes I'm experiencing! Thank you in advance💛

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I gained 20 by 21 weeks so you're doing a lot better than me!

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Everyone's bodies are different during pregnancy... I'm 22 weeks and I have gained 30 lbs. this is my second child. My doctor says I'm right on track with weight gain. Has never said anything else. I am having the same body issues as you are. I used to weigh 260 lbs and I lost over 100 and became a personal trainer. Health and fitness became my passion... it's been 8 years since our first child and I am struggling with accepting the changes my body is going through as well. I don't eat great and I don't exercise because of placenta previa. Needless to say I am depressed  and down on myself a lot. Everyday I make healthier choices for myself and the baby to get me back on track which makes me feel better about myself. Do things that make you feel good about yourself.

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I love my babies, but the weight gain and stretch marks are a definite struggle for me. I came out weighing less with baby #2 ( I'm pregnant with #4 right now ) due to gestational diabetes and controlling it with diet, but still it's a struggle. Then the post partum body is hard too. There's no break it feels.

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With my first I felt like my body was going to be so different forever and I would be that big forever! I was so stressed. But I lost all the weight and felt just like myself again. Your body might be a little different afterwards but it's a good thing not a bad thing! I don't want to be exactly the same my whole life, motherhood changes you a little but it's a good change. :)

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You look great. She needs not to say things like that over 3 lbs sheesh

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You look great! I'm pregnant with baby #2 (22 weeks pregnant) and I've gained around 6 pounds so far. I thought that was a normal amount of weight to gain by now, but according to my dr it's more than normal. But I was heavier before I got pregnant (I started at 153) so I'm not sure what the norm is as far as weight gain. Not sure if it's these crazy hormones or if people just like to make insensitive comments. I had an employee at a maternity store describe my thighs as "thunder thighs"...so that's uplifting as well. lol

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At least you didn't go from 120 to 155 in just the first trimester like I did. I felt miserable about it. I've dealt with an eating disorder since age ten, is turning twenty one. Half my life has been consumed by obsessing over my body and my weight, and I hadn't been so close to 160 since I was in middle school(which I was fairly suicidal over). I've spent a lot of this pregnancy feeling defeated and resentful, and those are hard emotions to deal with when you're supposed to be happy and excited. I know I'll probably never have my "good" body back and for me, that's a tough pill to swallow. I fear that after I give birth I'll have a severe relapse and that's not something a new mother has time for (herself, I mean), so I really don't know what I'm going to do. I never realized just making a baby was going to take this kind of toll on me, mentally.

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You'll lose the weight. I gained 45lbs with my son and was back to my old body by the time he was 1 and I didn't start trying until he was 9 months old. I ate terribly, breastfeeding made me ravenous and I had post partum. Pregnancy is so amazing, that big belly, food tastes amazing. Just enjoy that growing bump as you never know if you'll get this opportunity again. I love my big belly, I also lost 3 babies last year too tho, so my appreciation level has shot through the roof. You look great, just let yourself love yourself. You're making a human!!

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Completely having the same experience here. 20w1d and really until this week I've had a really hard time with my new body. I gained 12 lbs by week 12. I was ashamed of myself! But my doctor kept telling me it was okay and that everyone gains differently. Lo and behold, at my week 18 appt, I only gained 3 lbs more. When I looked pleased, my doctor goes "SEEEEE!" Your doctor will tell you if you need to be concerned. Otherwise, relax!

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My feelings are as long as baby and I are healthy, I will worry about the weight afterwards. I am human and have days where I don't feel like I look my best but then I feel my baby move and remember what all this is really for.

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