I'm almost 8 months post partum.. I had a long labor my doctor gave me an episiotomy and then I tore a lot. I never got a straight answer about how bad it was. All my doc said was "yeah it was pretty bad" and I wasn't really supposed to eat much of anything the first few days after birth (so I wouldn't poop) I had a catheter 24 hours after birth Bc they didn't want me getting up AT ALL. I had to have a 3 week and 6 week post partum check up.. so yeah it was a mess. Everything seems to have healed up okay.. sex isn't uncomfortable but things are DEFINITELY wider on the inside I definitely notice a difference during sex and not for nothing my husband has the biggest 🍆 I've ever seen in real life... that I can deal with, he doesn't notice a difference but everything probably feels tight to him 🙄

The Poops after giving birth weren't as scary as I thought surprisingly.. BUT

Two things:

During sex, it almost feels like something is coming out of my butt.. like I'm paranoid poop is slipping out but there never is anything. Like I'm feeling phantom things...

Also when I used the bathroom and poop, I can never seem to wipe enough if that makes sense? Like it will all seem completely clean and later when I go to the bathroom there's stains on my underwear. And it's driving me insane.

Does anyone have ANY insight, experience, familiarity with any of this and help me out? Hopefully this wasn't too long winded..