Advice Needed
A couple weeks ago my stepmom's sister (who got married months apart from me and also has struggled with infertility for a couple years) announced she was 20 weeks pregnant. At which point I was 9 weeks so I told her at the same time. The next day I had an ultrasound and sent her a picture. She said yay and sounded excited until her next string of messages. We had a family birthday party that coming weekend, but she advised us not to tell the family because if it didn't work out again it devastates the children. Understandable, so I suggested we just tell the adults. Then she said it would upset her mom (my grandma) if we lost it.
My husband and I were so upset that she killed our joy and asked me to wear baggy clothes to hide it, so we made an excuse to not go. She felt we would feel better if we waited another month or so. Given my history we like to share early so it can be celebrated instead of hidden which adds stress for me. This weekend is the next family birthday and we will be seeing them. We plan to tell the adults, but I am still dreading seeing her. I was so excited to finally be pregnant and doing this together so our kids will grow up close in age, but now I feel like she killed that joy. I am still happy for them, but I feel like they aren't really happy for us and just resent me. Help!
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