my bother in law is living wit us since 2009 😑

im so tired .... since my relationship started my bother in law has been living with us in my parents house , and now in my house the thing is that im tired of him , he doesnt like to work , he smoke weed all day , he is not responsable , i have rules in my house and he doesnt seems to care , 1-maintain his room and bathroom clean 2-come home before we go to sleep and another thing is that he is the one who tells my husband to cheat or show girls to him and he is changing since my husband takes him to work with him , he never have money to buy his personal stuff , and he always ask my husband for money or ride i just feel so tired of him 😑i cant be in my house comfy(w/o bra of with leggins because of him 😶 i told my husband that i dont want him here anymore and he is like he just want to save money and he will leave in 3 weeks or a month and the 3 weeks and a month passed and nothing now is been 8 years 😶 he is 23 and he has 2 childrens and doesnt have any responsability with them 😶 update : i did try to help him with his kids but he dont care he likes to go out with alot of girls like 3,4,5 at the same time .. i told my husband that i dont want him and he just open the door and accept him 😶