I have been with my partner for over 5 years (living together for 2.5). We were planning our Wedding this November but now that money is going towards the baby.

I do not know how to tell my toxic, strict, Catholic, concervative, Mexican mother. She will be extremely mad/disappointed. Or if I should even tell her at all. In my mind moving out of town to avoid the confrontation seems like a valid option. But I would really are I ate some advice.

She will nag at me, hate me, withdraw her suport and probably even shun me. (She has never supported my relationship with my fiance bc she liked my ex better 😒)

You might think that I am over reacting but in my eyes she has never really had the mom gene. Yes I know it is a struggle to be a single mom specially of 2 girls, but her toxic personality is a real thing. She used to be abusive (physically and mentally) when I lived with her, controlling to the point where I was 20 yrs old and was still slapped/punished for being 5 minutes late to my 8pm curfew. My boyfriend (now fiance) was not allowed in the house without another adult being precent. And even now when I do not live with her anymore she still tries to manipulate me by telling me I do not love or care for her of my sister when she needs me to do something for her.

She has told me countless times that I will not count with any of her support in any way shape or form if I decide to have a baby (planned or not).

I am not ready to deal with her negativity. And if you are wondering why she is still in my life. Well, she is my mother and I have always been taught to love her and respect her. Tho I now do do it to where I will not be hurt by her anymore .