Ok...I'm gonna try and make this as short as possible w/o leaving out the important points. First things first, I'm 34 weeks pregnant w/ my 🌈 baby boy and me & my BF of 5 years have been living together for about a year now. We stay about 20-30 minutes away from both of our parents. At the beginning of the 3rd trimester, We decided that after I gave birth, the three of us would come back home and spend the first week together alone. No visitors, just me, my BF, & the LO &'then my mom will come help me the next week when he has to go back to work. Before then, there had been discussions about us staying at his parents(where it will just be his mom, dad, & younger brother) house for a few days just so we could get the help we need, but that was quickly brushed under the rug because I'm seriously antisocial & an introvert at the max. I've talked to my mom about it & she feels that I wouldn't be a good idea because me & my BF have had some issues over the past few months, even though now we're in a good place & I absolutely adore his parents if they were my own and they feel the same way about me. I even got the title "daughter in-law" from his mom & there's not a ring in sight, which is huge considering she's a very religious woman & protective of her boys. The only reason I won't stay at my mom's is because my younger brother & sister lives there with her & my stepdad along with two dogs. I've asked my dad as well and he doesn't think that it would be a good idea for the same reason. As of last week, the discussion of staying with my BF's parents has come up again & I've been giving it some thought that it would help if we stayed with them for a few days, but I know my mom would want to spend time with her first grandchild when he's born & my dad(as he puts it) is gonna "want his time" 🙄 with him as well. My dad, which includes my stepmom, older brother, & two younger sisters) is coming from Texas and staying at relative's house that's 5 minutes away from my own home. I know we will need the help, but with my BF only getting a week off paid vacation when I give birth, I want to come home and stick with what we initially planned and have no visitors. I've been told that I was selfish for wanting to be alone the first week & I shouldn't stay with his parents, so I really don't know what to do right now.! Any advice?