Such a hateful, black heart.

My daughter's step mother is seriously the worst. Last time when she picked her up, she walked right past my husband in the front yard like he wasn't there, then rang our door bell as he was opening the door while standing next to her. The time before that it had been raining so there was water collected at the end of the driveway. She called " Im here" then hung up. So we walk outside, she's parked across the street, so my husband calls out and tells her she's welcome to pull in the driveway so nobody has to get their feet wet. She then starts throwing a fit and demanding we have our 8yr old get her sneakers wet to get to her. My husband carried her across the water instead. When we show up to pick her up she seriously slams the door in our faces, then proceeds to spend the next 10 min yelling at my daughter for whatever reason she has decided. She did it once at her in -laws and her father-in-law lightly scolded her telling her " We aren't rude in this house. We open the door and invite guests in. We act like civilized people!" To which she replied " No, we treat Sam as badly as we want, we don't need to be polite or nice to her!". Others jaws dropped as she got up to shut the door in my face again, her father-in-law stepped in and stopped her again. She's called my 8yr old a liar on multiple occasions for various reasons. 8yr old isn't allowed to talk, eat, or drink in the car, while her 3yr old sister is. When the stepmom is mad or pissed she throws things at her husband and my 8yr old. I just do not understand what made her heart, mind, and attitude so black and ugly. She grew up with everything she wanted given by her parents and grandparents. Even now, at 24yrs old, her parents still send her $1000.00 a month in "allowance". ( I only know about the money because when we worked together she used to brag about it and her and my ex have been fighting about what she does with it several times when I've gone to pick my 8yr old up.) Her stepmom openly says that she hates kids. She only has one because she was accidentally "knocked up" and her family wouldn't allow an abortion but instead made them marry.

I always wanted my daughters to have an amazing stepmom that cared for them like their own. I wanted them to be close enough that she'd call her a version of "Mom" and never feel unwanted or unsafe. My 8yr old is a doll. Seriously very well behaved and so respectful. She has the biggest heart and several times has given part of her lunch to a friend who just "didn't like" what was in their own lunch.

I get sometimes life doesn't go as planned but taking it out on small, innocent people is low and hateful. I just don't get it. I dont care who's kid you are, I will treat you just the same as my own. I was a CPS kid so I know what rejection is like and I hate for any child to understand that.

Thanks for letting me vent!